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Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before him; God is a refuge for us. Selah.

Psalm 62:8
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Enneagram, StrengthsFinder, Myers-Briggs, DISC, or any other personality or motivational assessment will tell you we’re are all so very different. Not only are we different within, we have experiences that have shaped us, skills we have developed, and years of life that have taught us. Some of us are question askers, others of us are storytellers. Some of us dig for detail while others want the big picture of where we are going. Our uniqueness does not stop with our relationship with God. We bring it with us to Jesus as well.

Mary and Martha were different sisters—same family, very different women. And Jesus welcomed their uniqueness as they processed the death of their brother, their disappointment with Jesus, and what was to come.

They exclaimed the same truth to Jesus (John 11:21, 32) yet followed it with different actions. Martha shared words, questions, and dialogue. Mary brought her tears and fell down before Jesus. Jesus responded to these sisters exactly where they were.

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Martha came with her words, thoughts, and questions. Jesus dialogued with Martha about theology, faith, and resurrection. Their interaction led Martha to make a statement of faith, “Yes, Lord; I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who is coming into the world” (John 11:27). Before the resurrection of Lazarus, Martha again had an opportunity to affirm her faith (John 11:39–40).

Mary came full-body, with tears. Her release of grief and confusion was both emotional and physical. Jesus met her with his own tears… Jesus met her with his own tears as well as his anger at death itself (John 11:35, 38). The release of his own tears, his anger, and his emotions led the surrounding community to exclaim, “See how he loved him!” (John 11:36).

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Throughout the story you can’t help but wonder, why didn’t Jesus just heal Lazarus? Why did he wait for both the women to express their disappointment? Why did he linger?

He previously indicated that this all was bigger than what was happening in the present. He talked about resurrection and life and belief and glory, but why not go ahead and show Martha his power right away, or dry Mary’s tears right away (John 11:4, 15, 42)? Why did he let them grieve? Why did he himself grieve?

Truly, the ways of God are a mystery, and this mystery does not always bring us comfort. Yet, the invitation we see in this story is that God is a God who enters our story and stays there. God is a God who is willing to hear our questions, to wrestle with us, to patiently care for us. God is a God who is willing to feel the depth of emotion, anger at death, and sadness at loss. He is a God who is with us. And this God invites us to stay with him in our disappointments, our questions, our tears, and whatever we uniquely bring.


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Seeing how Jesus stayed with the sisters, how does he want to stay with you? Is there an area of your life he has been quiet about, or unmoving?

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Jesus stays with me by keeping me as my husbands balance and center. He’s been going through a lot and needs the reminder that Christ loves him even though it may not seem like it at the moment. He seems quiet to me in the front of Education and where my husband is supposed to be but I still talk with God daily about it and await a response.

I was intrigued by the mystery of why Jesus made them wait. And never knew about the soul remaining around for three days according to some Jews belief. But I was thinking that Jesus let Mary and Martha struggle because he wanted them to wrestle with death. Death is but it is a difficult part of our growth. Martha and Mary needed to wrangle with death . Only then could they grow in wisdom and be prepared to comfort others.

The Lord will not budge on me losing stuff and asking him to help. I will need to get this done myself but with his help.

He was quiet for years as I struggled with being single and one of the only virgins I knew through college. I knew He wanted me to continue waiting for the man He had prepared for me, but I had moments of sadness, frustration, and sometimes even doubt that I would get to experience (earthly) love. But I remained faithful and God blessed me with a marriage that’s better than I could have ever imagined. Today is our 2nd anniversary! Hallelujah!

I have been in a season- a type of wilderness, you might say, and have been told by others that I need to come before God and fight this battle on my knees. I have not done that and haven’t heard or felt God moving in different ways. I think this is Him wanting to be with me and for me to learn how to have that mutual relationship again.

How does Jesus want to stay with me? When I am out in nature, mostly in solitude. I find myself seeking and finding solace in being alone with Jesus. I look for Him in the simple, in the rebirth of Spring, in the wildlife, the sunshine, the warm breezes, the flowers.

When I look at the Blue Sky, I can feel Gods presence. Jesus wants me to stay there in that moment of aw!
I feel there is more for me to do with this Life time & I’m staying still waiting on Jesus to answer my prayers.
Even if I don’t understand all the challenges, I do believe he is working as we speak.

"Let it be to me according to your word" Mary

In Jesus Mighty Name, Amen

I so want God to woo my son to relationship with him. To help him with the direction for his life. He remains quiet and I try patiently to wait trusting in his timing and knowing it may not be the answer I want .

I know it’s God’s will that none should be lost and I have prayed for years for some dear friends and relatives along with sharing with them his love. I’ll keep going but it doesn’t seem like it’s ever going to happen.

Me, too, Jody. Trusting in His timing and His love. And continuing to press on in prayer.

I don’t hear much from Him about my health. Amyloidosis. Really high B12. A huge cluster of seemingly random symptoms. How long will COVID19 keep me from the assessments and treatment that I need?

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