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Are You Afraid You Can Never Change?

If you love me, keep my commands. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever.

John 14:15–16
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“I can’t do that.”

“It will never work.”

“I’ve tried before.”

“I’m afraid to try.”

Have you ever found yourself saying one of these things when it comes to change? Whether you’re attempting something new, trying to change the way you think, or starting a different routine, you come up with a million reasons why it won’t work for you before you’ve even started. Why do we do that to ourselves?

If we do that in the little things, how much more do we have this mindset with the big things? Growing to be more like Jesus sounds like a big, audacious goal that we have to achieve on our own. What makes it even harder is that the enemy would love for you to believe that it’s not even possible. So what do we do when we want to figure out what’s true? Head to the Bible.

In John 16, Jesus tells his disciples that when he leaves the earth, there’s a way he will stay connected with them. There’s a way they will still have help: the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is the third person in the Trinity: God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. Jesus refers to the Holy Spirit as the Helper: “If you love me, you will keep my commandments. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever” (John 14:15–16).

This is good news! We cannot grow to be like Jesus without the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives. We have help. The biggest mistake we can make with sanctification is thinking it’s a self-help initiative. It’s a Holy Spirit initiative.

“Holy Spirit, help me to love those around me with grace and compassion.”

“Help me to make this decision.”

“Help me to trust you with this day.”

It’s easy to believe change in our lives isn’t possible if the change is only up to us. Praise God that’s never what he has in mind as he molds us to be more like him. How much more do we stick to something we say we’re going to do when we have someone holding us accountable? The Holy Spirit is our guide, our teacher, our helper. God’s Spirit is inside of us, showing us how to live a godly life. He literally is the change agent—the one doing the work. The only way we look any different. The reason we can look like Jesus at all.

You’re not alone.


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Have you noticed the Holy Spirit at work in your life before? If so, how? If not, what can you do this week to begin to notice him?

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Comments (17)

Yes, whenever I pause in a difficult, painful or challenging situation and quietly ask God for help, breathe and wait He comes in the form of a whisper, an inspiration and change in perspective, to help me push through that situation. All I have to do is ask, think about Jesus and wait. If difficult people confront me I pray for His help, and He resolves it or gives me the words to say. I just have to remember Him. But sometimes he steps in without my requests, if I am overwhelmed. He is so good!

Absolutely! This summer and fall I have been asked to lead a few different ministries. As much as I would like to say no, God just keeps putting these opportunities in front of me. It is amazing how I have enjoyed these challenges and how He has helped me through the process. Thanks be to God for having confidence in me even when I don’t have confidence in myself.

Absolutely! The Holy Spirit has directly prompted me to take actions that were totally outside of my comfort zone. It was for unknown reasons; I believe in some cases it was just that small act of obedience to His voice and for others, I think it most likely had an unknown impact but one I will understand when I reach eternity ! Gods Spirit is working in my life now at age 60 to finally help me to see the necessity and importance of community, after living my life in spiritual solitude up to this point. I Have been enlightened to the Church’s purpose and the need to open up to the Spirit and whatever spiritual gift I have been given. Praying to the Lord know to reveal that in me and let His power take over, because I don’t have a clue what He would have me to do specifically

I absolutely have seen the Holy Spirit work in my life, especially when going through a tough season in life. It’s funny how we cling to Jesus in a crisis. He provided open doors twice when going through some challenging times at two different jobs. He provided my husband when I cried out because of loneliness. How come it’s not my go to when things are going well. How many crisis situations may have been avoided if I sought Jesus first instead of trying to do things on my own. God never turns away. He is good all the time. I chose not to spend quality time with Him and I choose to spend quality with Him, and all of you, now. Holy Spirit please help me be still, rest in you, let you guide me because your way is so much better than mine.

I experience the Holy Spirit at work when I am in stressful meetings. I have several meetings that can leave me very frustrated and irritated. I will frequently call on the Holy Spirit to take over my thoughts, words, and actions before a meeting starts and to help me look at my co-workers as Jesus would, with compassion, understanding, and grace. I don’t want my co-workers to know me as a stress ball, but rather a team player that responds with kindness and lots of grace.

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