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Friends From the Beginning

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

Genesis 2:18
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friends from the beginning

In the beginning, God created the universe and then filled it with life. God made the first human— and he was very good. Then God fashioned a very good woman—because He decided that even in a perfect world, it’s far from good for humans to exist without other humans.

In fact, God says of the man’s loneliness, “I will make a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18). The word “helper”, is the Hebrew word ezer. This powerful word appears several times in the Old Testament (including Exodus 18:4; Psalm 121:1, 124:8; Ezekiel 12:14; and Isaiah 30:5), mostly to describe God’s mighty military intervention. To paraphrase Genesis 2:18, ezer describes Eve as
the one who has Adam’s back. Ezer is a word imbued with strength, tenacity, and fierceness that the English word “helper” can miss.

Before sin even came into the world, the Lord knew humans needed other humans in order to flourish. Our need to have each other’s back has only increased because of the rampaging presence of sin both in the world and in our everyday struggles. Sometimes we feel it when we roll out of bed after a fitful night of sleep and wake with a weight on our shoulders. Our feet hit the floor and all we want to do is skulk back into our beds and crawl into ourselves. We feel in those moments that it is good for us to be alone. Isolation is one of Satan’s best playing cards.

Sin blows up real-life relationships with all the messiness of characters on our favorite soap opera. Sin changed the relationship between humans and God and between the man and the woman. At first, Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed—free to love, cohabit, work, plan, and rest without inhibition. But after sin entered into the world, shame dropped like a bomb, compelling them to cover themselves with fig leaves and hide from God. We have been hiding ourselves ever since. The proper cover for our emotional nakedness, however, isn’t hiding; it’s confession. This is one of the reasons that the Holy Spirit convicts us of sin and compels us to admit wrongdoing. Thankfully, the Spirit does not leave us vulnerable; He covers us with forgiveness and cleansing (1 John 1:9).

through the storm

Good friends cover us, too. Imagine this: a young woman is on her own for the first time; college freshman, new car, new apartment—freedom is on the horizon and the wind is billowing in her eighteen-year-old sails. What she doesn’t know is that college is a tempest. In blows a storm of bad decisions, and hurricanes of comparison and self-doubt. The free-spirited college freshman realizes her ship is sinking. She lightens her load by tossing her classes. Next, people and relationships are lost to the depths as she clings to solitude. Finally, in her despair, she considers hurling overboard the most important cargo: her faith. She’s lost her bearings. And then—a break in the clouds. The voice of a friend, like a compass and an oar, assures her of the steady foundation in the distance and rows like crazy, steering her through.

Some of us made it to shore not because we’re great sailors, but because we had a friend who rowed us back to God’s good shores.


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Describe a time when a friend was a true help. Or, describe a time when you were a true helper to a friend. How has God been a true help and friend to you?

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I went through a very difficult time in my life where I had to keep going – even though I wanted to curl up and just be alone. There was a handful of friends who walked with me, keeper me focused and held me up at times. I honestly don’t know where I would be right now, if my friends weren’t there giving me the encouragement I needed to just stand during that time in my life.

Anytime I talk to my REAL friends and have REAL conversations it’s always a huge help. Those friends that aren’t afraid to have those deep though provoking conversations are a gift to me. I tend to spend a lot of time in my head thinking some really heavy very in depth stuff. When I can talk with a friend that is happy to share those thoughts and have those conversations with me, I feel lighter. I feel happier! I have two friends that are a gift because they are always willing to talk about growing, changing, faith, loving God. They are woman I can share all of myself with. It’s truly a blessing.

God has been a true friend to me because ever since I have truly understood who I am in Christ I can love myself as he loves me. I am more than I ever thought I was because and all powerful, all loving, HUGE GOD loves me. That’s an amazing feeling!

True friends and the Lord are both with you always. No matter the circumstance, time of day, or any other factors. They’re with you through your good times or bad times, ups and downs, highs and lows always. They’re dependable, reliable, comforting, they’re whatever you need them to be. They wear many hats! The lord and my friends have helped me in many, many different ways but the biggest help to me is they LISTEN. I’m so Grateful, thankful and blessed to have them in my life.

When my husband died, my friends came running to give me support. They cooked meals for my children and me. They called and checked on me and the kids. My friends listened to me. They let me tell my story as often as I needed to. If things ran over at work, they watched over my children for me. In essence they were being Jesus to me.

True help comes in the big moments and can be listed off.
It’s the little moments though that I cherish. Talking to friends about the challenges we go through being mothers, wives, teachers, our tests on our beliefs and health. These moments, usually over tea with kids playing all over are times that I have given support and had support in return.

I remember a time when singleness scared me. I was looking for a rebound and the Lord directed me to a girl I knew but hadn’t really befriended. I sent her a question (about a guy she knew because I still wasn’t listening fully…) and she suggested I come for a bible study she was hosting that night. So I went and stayed after and she brought me back to realizing my identity wasn’t in a guy but in the Lord. We talked until after midnight and she was my compass many times after that.

“…Our feet hit the floor and all we want to do is skulk back into our beds and crawl into ourselves. We feel in those moments that it is good for us to be alone. Isolation is one of Satan’s best playing cards.” I have experienced this… especially since my natural bent is towards being introverted. In the past, I have sometimes felt let down by friends and withdraw at times. It feels self protective but I’m starting to see that is a way for the enemy to attack to me. It has however, made me rely more on God.

Since I have not experienced that I will address a rescue by a preacher. We were living and spending time with people who had different values. So God pulled us out of that environment and we discovered salvation through a preacher and the Holy Spirit.

When at my lowest of points…when sinking into depression was the options for me. My friends are who and what carried me! They reminded me of my worth and value in Christ! They ran the race with me helping when I fell by dusting off my knees; never leaving me behind!! True love by these women is what has given me the Faith and the drive to pay it forward to others in their time of despair!

This friend stood up for me when I was verbally Being attacked she rebuked What they were saying in Jesus Name Allowing the spirit of God to move. I was in shock for I had great love for this person which left me speechless so this dear friend fought the battle in the spirit! I thank God for through it truth , His power and love happened

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