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Friends From the Beginning

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

Genesis 2:18
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friends from the beginning

In the beginning, God created the universe and then filled it with life. God made the first human— and he was very good. Then God fashioned a very good woman—because He decided that even in a perfect world, it’s far from good for humans to exist without other humans.

In fact, God says of the man’s loneliness, “I will make a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18). The word “helper”, is the Hebrew word ezer. This powerful word appears several times in the Old Testament (including Exodus 18:4; Psalm 121:1, 124:8; Ezekiel 12:14; and Isaiah 30:5), mostly to describe God’s mighty military intervention. To paraphrase Genesis 2:18, ezer describes Eve as
the one who has Adam’s back. Ezer is a word imbued with strength, tenacity, and fierceness that the English word “helper” can miss.

Before sin even came into the world, the Lord knew humans needed other humans in order to flourish. Our need to have each other’s back has only increased because of the rampaging presence of sin both in the world and in our everyday struggles. Sometimes we feel it when we roll out of bed after a fitful night of sleep and wake with a weight on our shoulders. Our feet hit the floor and all we want to do is skulk back into our beds and crawl into ourselves. We feel in those moments that it is good for us to be alone. Isolation is one of Satan’s best playing cards.

Sin blows up real-life relationships with all the messiness of characters on our favorite soap opera. Sin changed the relationship between humans and God and between the man and the woman. At first, Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed—free to love, cohabit, work, plan, and rest without inhibition. But after sin entered into the world, shame dropped like a bomb, compelling them to cover themselves with fig leaves and hide from God. We have been hiding ourselves ever since. The proper cover for our emotional nakedness, however, isn’t hiding; it’s confession. This is one of the reasons that the Holy Spirit convicts us of sin and compels us to admit wrongdoing. Thankfully, the Spirit does not leave us vulnerable; He covers us with forgiveness and cleansing (1 John 1:9).

through the storm

Good friends cover us, too. Imagine this: a young woman is on her own for the first time; college freshman, new car, new apartment—freedom is on the horizon and the wind is billowing in her eighteen-year-old sails. What she doesn’t know is that college is a tempest. In blows a storm of bad decisions, and hurricanes of comparison and self-doubt. The free-spirited college freshman realizes her ship is sinking. She lightens her load by tossing her classes. Next, people and relationships are lost to the depths as she clings to solitude. Finally, in her despair, she considers hurling overboard the most important cargo: her faith. She’s lost her bearings. And then—a break in the clouds. The voice of a friend, like a compass and an oar, assures her of the steady foundation in the distance and rows like crazy, steering her through.

Some of us made it to shore not because we’re great sailors, but because we had a friend who rowed us back to God’s good shores.


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Describe a time when a friend was a true help. Or, describe a time when you were a true helper to a friend. How has God been a true help and friend to you?

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Comments (10)

I’ve had friends pray and support me when I was struggling through emotional issues, physical health issues and spiritual oppression. Their prayers really kept me encouraged and were a light during very tough times. God has been the best friend to me because he loves me in spite of my flaws and shortcomings!

When my niece was killed a longtime friend wanted to help me. She really didn’t know what to do, so she offered to clean my house while I was in Missouri with my family.

I find myself helping friends all the time, a shoulder to cry on, a ride to the doctors, or just someone to text. I had a friend that was there for me when my son died. She drove me to all the places I needed to go to, and was by my side during those dark times. But since then I do not feel that true friend anymore. It feels like she feels that time has passed and move on. My faith, my belief has shined brightly at times but then has been very dim at times. God always knows when I need to take a step back and believe him again, to let that light shine.

I had taken a job that I really felt God had been leaning me towards for years. Within a few weeks, I realized it was a toxic work environment. I left the job with my heart broken, I had been certain this was God’s plan for me. My sister helped guide me into making the decision. Realizing that no matter how much I had wanted it to work, it was destroying my soul. Then she came over the day after I quit so that I would not have to be alone. What a wonderful distraction that helped the day pass. God opened a new door immediately that allowed me to feel fulfilled and appreciated and also speak truth into the lives of those around me.

My friend help me see I was on the right path to go get counseling and write a note of forgiveness to a family member who had abused me. We don’t live in the same state anymore but I will always be there for her in hard times to vent or know I am here and same with her.

A friend of mine confided in me about something that had happened to her in her childhood. Besides talking to a counselor about it, she had never told a friend because she was embarrassed. I listened to her and provided support and guidance to help her take a step she felt was necessary to have some peace and closure. I have confided in God with many decisions I was facing and had enough faith that it was less stressful to me during the time, I felt like I was going to be okay because I knew there was a larger plan in place. Life gives us those moments in life and it may be hard, never get the results we would want, challenge our belief, but God is there with us always in our journey.

*when a friend watched over the house while a funeral took place and helped clean the house before people came over.
*I’ve helped a friend clean/get caught up on laundry/re-organize her closet and bathrooms while having fun with it.
*God has put people in my life that I needed dearly. Example: I couldn’t afford rent anymore (nobody knew this) and an old friend, literally out of nowhere, asked if I wanted to move in with her and her family. It helped me get back up on my feet, and provide them much needed extra cash.

I had a friend who helped me at a time when I was very depressed. Didn’t let me isolate myself and just encouraged me to see beauty and joy in simple things. We aren’t friends anymore, but I know that person was a true friend when I needed one. I don’t have friends like that anymore, a helper, but I know I want to be one and want to have one. I love that I can feel God with me each day and I talk with Him throughout my day.

Learning of betrayal by a loved one is devastating. God has been a true help to me by putting people in my life who’ve had similar experiences and are willing to help me walk through my current stormy season.

Katie, helping me through the depression; Patty too… maybe… she did what she could; me letting her go. Sarah and the breaker; Jack and Irene giving me a vacation; giving of their left-overs (I’m not sure that these come from "friends" more "neighbours". Do I have an easier time receiving from "neighbours"?

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